Hi,
Here's what the myth buster said: http://www.cvcommunity.com/utility/showArticle/?objectID=2282
"The spirit of coaching - as I mentioned in the last myth - is bringing out the greatness of people. Everything we do as a coach must be in line with tapping into the client's greatness AND resolving the blocks to greatness."
This is just a bunch of high school motivational stuff and so silly.
Look at the underlying assumptions:
Greatness is the goal?
Everything we do...is a recipe driven formula?
Must be in line...so being in line is the key?
Tapping into client greatness is the key to everything?
Resolving blocks to greatness is the key to everything?
You know for a person who is supposedly the leader of the world's largest coach organization I give him credit for being out there.
But passing along this kind of stuff makes me sad in so many ways.
This whole issue of greatness is so much baloney and structured in the ladder climbing stuff that our world is made of, so instead of being ourselves, we're always worried about greatness.
Folks, I've been down this path, it's a cul de sac.
There are skeleton's of lives littered along this road.
All this stuff about extraordinary results (my old pet peeve) and greatness is just motivational baloney fit for those who want to play this silly game.
I'll give up greatness any day for a little bit of everyday happiness and content.
Live is NOT about being great, achievement is about being great, or winning is about being great and both of those have severe limitations in this world of today.
You might say this person is really living out the orange nodal system in spiral dynamics and all this greatness stuff is so misguided.
There is no need to be great, "everything (blue) must (blue) in line (blue, blue, blue)..." sad, sad and sadder to think that thousands of people are buying into this malarkey.
When people are focused on being great, they lose themselves in it...and spend the rest of their lives wondering what happened when they are not great (in other people's eyes). This is really the low point.
Greatness is established as a very limited structure of meaning making that is judged by others, or he would say everyone is already great and shares in greatness in every breath. Everyone is just perfect as they are, there is no need to be great. The amount of energy spent on being great could be much better be allocated to be yourself and accept yourself as you are, warts and all.
If you want different consequences, you just need to shift your behavior, you don't need to be great?
This focus on greatness, or extraordinary results is not necessary and in fact is blocking sustainability.
All this greatness is killing our environment and leading to great divides between poor and rich.
All this focus on greatness is using up a lot of energy unnecessarily...and preventing us from collaborating more because we're worried about who is the greatest--the implicit flaw in being great...who judges great?
The judgment of greatness is meaning made up by those around you.
If you learn anything in Coach2, learn to use dynamic inquiry as an appreciative approach to allowing people to become what they can. Remove all emphasis on greatness.
I used to talk to my daughter katy about this stuff and have written extensively about outcome goals versus performance goals. The key thing in any endeavor is to become what you can, let everything else take care of itself. If others judge what you do as great, be humble. If other people encourage you to be great, be what you can, the outcome will take care of itself.
Greatness is some standard that others impose on you through their judgment in my opinion...RESIST this game, enjoy your gifts, leave greatness for those to judge when you are long gone...for the practice of it, will do nothing but distort your own sprit and soul work.
mike
http://www.b-coach.com/
"coach training for everyone"
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